In my youth my father gave me what would turn out to be one of the most profound pieces of advice I have ever received. He told me, partly in jest, “Son – marry up.”
Back then I laughed at his weird comment, but I have had enough travels in my life to now have the perspective to truly appreciate the wisdom in his seemingly silly request, and I’m enjoying the benefits of heeding his advice.
What does “Marry up” mean anyway? It means to be confident and competent in your own skills, yet always be seeking to improve in areas where you are not so strong. It means to be open to exploring new ideas and to embrace others with differing skill sets and personalities. When this happens, you are better with someone than when you were without. You learn, you grow, you evolve. To quote Austin Powers, it means finding someone to whom you can genuinely say, “You complete me.”